My boyfriend and I are almost 19, (we share a birthday,) and have been dating for a little over a year.
We were each other’s firsts and are otherwise very happy together, we are best friends and enjoy spending almost all of our time with each other. In other words, we are very much in love and have no plans of breaking up.
The only problem is that I almost constantly want sex from him, and he doesn’t want it at all. I’ve never even considered that I’m not attractive to him, I’m actually quite pretty and very thin, and people often tell me I could do better than him physically. He’s only in the mood about every other week, and about half the time he can’t get hard. He becomes frustrated when I bring it up, and the only times we do have sex are times when I “trick” him into doing it, otherwise he avoids it like the plague and instead suggests that we play board games or ride our bikes together.
I don’t even mind that the sex only lasts about 3 minutes and is always the same position. I don’t even care that he refuses to use his hands or his mouth… I mainly just want him to want it.
Is this normal for an 18 year old male? I’ve been very sensitive when approaching the subject but he really doesn’t want to talk about it. He says he’s just not into it.
I’ve considered maybe having a non-sexual relationship with him or maybe even opening it up to other partners, but it just doesn’t seem right to me. I want a normal relationship with him because I love him, and I don’t want the physical part to get in the way.
Is there any way he can increase his libido or I can decrease mine?
My Boyfriend Has Little To No Sex Drive… What Should I Do?
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He is either… Gay.. or there is something about YOU that turns him off.
dont cry, its just the truth
Gain some weight, maybe he’d be more into a BBW.
Somthing is definately wrong here. I think he may be GAY and does not want to face this fact. Otherwise he does not physically like you. But either way its not a good sign for your future. Be very careful unless you wanna hurt in the future
IF HE IS IN DENAIL ABOUT BEING GAY HE WILL NOT TELL YOU THAT HE IS DAAAAAAA. btw i have a friend of mine and she was in a relationship for 4 years and after so long he left her for a BOY. Dont take this chance
make a porno either with him or solo and put it up here or on mobileboner.com or spankwire.com
I would look at diet, try aphrodisiacs to get him more into the mood&exercising together, it can play a big part on his sex drive! Maybe dont tell him ur doing all of this, just maybe one morning be like wanna go for a jog/walk/swim together? and cook him a meal sometime xp
I think speak to him be like i love u&i wanna get intimate with u too, yes i know its not the only thing in a relationship but if theres something wrong i wanna help, perhaps organize i docs appointment for him, this can happen to a ton of guys&doesnt make him any less of a man,remind him that! He probably doesnt want it cos hes had such bad experience,his ego’s shattered can u blame him?
Goodluck
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Maybe he feels awkward about being in a relationship with someone who he had sex with and knows so little about. Perhaps you should break up with him and let the next person wait for the earned privilege of sexual intimacy, which includes a wedding ring.
If you say he has trouble getting erect, he may have erectile dysfunction. Ask him in a sensitive way as he may be shy about it. This may not be the case and he may just not have as much of a drive as some other males. It is important to ask him if he has E.D in a sensitive way as some men feel it in some way compromises their masculinity. Good luck.
Doesn’t sound like it is you, sounds like he has some kind of issue that he is dealing with, maybe stress, maybe depression, maybe low self esteem. Talk to him about that kind of stuff and figure it out. he may need a doctor, but low libido is very uncommon, so i would really say its something in his head and not that he doesn’t love you or want you.
i dont think it is you. it sounds like he has a medical problem with his hardware. to be honest i heard of this happening but never to someone so young. i know it sounds like you love him and everything but maybe you should keep your options open because if doesnt even wanna talk about it thats a problem.
He might have a medical problem, try to talk to him about this, and maybe convince him to see a doctor about it.
He`s obviously got a very low sex drive, and is not that much into sex. A bit unusual for a young guy, but far from being rare.
We are all different in sexual matters- male or female. Some want it regular and a lot, some hardly at all.
I think, with patience, you could reach a compromise. Gradually temp him to try other thing rather than full sex – just to ring the changes.
You are right tho – men with low sex drives or who have trouble getting an erection, are mostly NOT wanting to talk about it. They find it extremely embarrassing because it makes them feel less of a man.
The more the girl goes on about it, the less he will want sex. A man can even be made virtually impotent if a spiteful girl says `You`re hopeless, you can`t even get it up`!
So just encourage him as patiently and as gently as you can.
OPTION 1: If he’s heavily religious, he may feel guilty about getting intimate with you before marriage. He might feel like he’s done something really wrong and get so anxious about it that it can cause a loss of sex drive. I went through a period of anxiety one time, I lost all sex drive for a week. That’s long for me, and any guy for that matter. The amount of tie he’s pushed you away makes me think it’s not option 1
OPTION 2: Even though you might think you are pretty by social norms, that doesn’t mean you are exactly his cup of tea. He might be into something else, heavier women, skinnier women, different hair color, etc. But still I don’t see why he would turn you down for sex when you are literally throwing it at him. Which is why option 3 is the most likely.
OPTION 3: He’s gay. I’m not saying this to be funny or mean, it really sounds like this is a possibility, My cousin went through the same thing before coming out. He may very well be trying to lie to himself because he’s ashamed of it and/or he doesn’t want to hurt you.
Either way I hope it works out, and I wish you good luck.
The movie is “cat on a hot tin roof” actors Elizabeth Taylor and Burton, the mother pats the bed and says “75% of the marriages are made or broken in this”. You are a sexual individual and he is just a sexually average guy. Since you have mentioned birth months and you being on the same day, that does not make you personalities that match, in fact you may have totally alien moon signs. You would need to know whether you are both sexually compatible and there are some excellent websites which give you this information the best being indastro.com which gives you love compatibility and sexual compatibility. Ivilllage.com has a funny quiz which gives you some really bizarre answers to your questions. That’s besides the fact that we already know that you aren’t sexually compatible:).. You say you love him, but to what extent, would you be able to tolerate his lack of desire for the next twenty years and kill your own needs? If you do love him to a great degree you would be satisfied with what he has to offer, but you will always be hankering after your body’s needs which may lead you in a crazy search for compatible partners (that is also acceptable in today’s “immoral” world:)>> .Most often this is solved by motherhood because you have so much more to think about.
sad.
It is also rather difficult for him to just be friends because he knows you will then go elsewhere for a lover. I suggest that a good heart to heart will solve this, or books on love making to give him ideas to be a bit less selfish especially since he has a woman who obviously needs him. He is selfish by the way and he could say the same of you
If you love him, you may just have to accept him as he is..