Been married for over 15 years, I love sex, problem is wife only has it with me 2 to 4 times per month. Is this normal? She is also the type to just lay on the bed and i have to do everything, it’s been like this all these years. same place, same position, i do everything. i often want to have more frequent but she does not or complains about being tired. what should i do? we have two teenagers and she says there’s no time when they are awake.
Is This Amount Of Time For Sex Normal In A Marriage?
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My husband had this same problem with his ex-wife. They were married 15 yrs, had sex once a month. She HATED sex. She was raised Catholic and believed that sex was dirty, that you only do it for procreation purposes, and that women were not enjoy it, it’s a “duty”.
Perhaps your wife was taught the same horrible, wrong things.
I have that issue. About 1x a week and she only likes missionary. She does climax, but it’s sooooo dull for me.
You could test the waters by seeing other people to see if it’s you or not. If a woman more attractive than your wife enjoys sex with you and is willing to get funky, then it’s your wife who is the problem.
If other women aren’t impressed with you — you don’t get callbacks and offers, the problem may be you. Your looks, your lasting power, etc.
Thats not that horrible….she may just be bored with it…try something different be spontaneous….watch a dirty movie together….go out of town for a night…..tell her how you feel!!!! How are you looking these days, could you lose a few pounds….put some effort into how you look..(not saying this because I think you must be a big ol fat dude) Im serious, just because you have been married 15 years doesnt give either spouse an excuse to be a slob….
It may be normal for her. I know I have some minor health issues that make me have a low libido (fatigue is a problem), but I go through phases. Sometimes I’m happy with 1-2 times a month, other times I’ll want sex everyday for 4 days straight. It just kind of depends. My husband would prefer 1-2 times a week, but he understands how I am and doesn’t pressure me.
One thing both he and I have discovered, though, is if that I am exposed to sexy things, I tend to be horny many hours later. For example, we’ve shopped for sex toys online a few times (finally just bought a couple!). Each of the three times we looked at stuff together, I wanted sex later that night. I sometimes feel that way if I’ve watched a TV show or a movie with a really good sex scene, too. People believe only men are visual — pah! Women are JUST as visual. We just don’t make a big flipping deal about it!
So to warm up your wife a little more often, subtly expose her to sexy things and ideas. Also touch and kiss and cuddle her a lot (without being smothering or grabbing for the boobs every time), because non-sexual physical intimacy paves the way for more frequent sexual intimacy. If she enjoys your closeness, without the pressure of sex, it will help her put down her guard and respond to sexual advances more frequently. Oh, and tell her she has a sexy butt, and often.
As for the frequency I don’t think that’s too terribly bad. Once a week on average sometimes, that’s probably close to average I would think for how long you have been married. But from the way she acts it sounds like she needs some incentive to spice things up a bit and be more interested. Have you tried romantic stuff? Helping with the housework? Sending the kids to a friend’s? Taking her on a romantic trip? More foreplay?
Yes, that’s normal. My parents had sex 3-4 times per month and they’ve been together for 23 years.